Dating Tips from a lady who learned the hard way – LuRain Penny

I been reading lots of the dating tips here on the computer, usually written by young types who have no trouble getting asked out.

The problem is, they telling you how to impress a prospective dalliance, and not really giving you clues on how to spot a lulu in the first 5 minutes.

If you keep your wits about you, and libido in check,  you should be able to figure whether or not a person is someone to spend more than a meal with.

Here’s a few insights on how to suss if you should go any further than the restaurant. 

Remember, you not going to change anybody.

Don’t even start off thinking  ‘this guy would be perfect if only’.

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1.

Watch how they eat.

This will tell you a great deal.

Folks that talk with their mouth full, splooing all over the front of themselves and you in an effort to keep the conversation going has got serious issues.

Do they smack their lips or chew with they mouth open?

Could you really put up with looking at that for a lifetime, or even a week?

Are they belchers who think that the world wants to hear their gustatory approval?

Or worse, do they pass gas audibly?

That alone should alert you to the fact that they are negligent of what their digestion can tolerate and don’t bother to pop the Beano to keep others from falling over in a dead faint around them.

If you have any doubt over whether you could put up with such behaviour for a lifetime – imagine them with no teeth and the same habits.

Drool gets old as time goes by.

 

2.

Notice carefully how they treat little people – waiters, doormen, taxi drivers, cashiers, and so on.

Are they brimming with phony bon vivant or dismissive and even rude?

This tells you they have layers of regard dictating their behavior.

Lo to the lover who falls in their estimation.

People who are not genuinely courteous to everyone, will one day reveal true colors when it comes to close relations.

Such folks have no compunction about dropping an old flame flat without no closure or explanation.

 

3.

Do they talk about themselves overmuch?

We all guilty of this sometimes, but a being around a person who is fixed on their own thoughts is boring.

Does everything subject lead back to them?

Do they have a personal experience as rebuttal for all your opinions?

Do they listen to you, or are they figuring out what they going to say next?

Do you feel unsatisfied with the conversation when you think back?

Did it seem like you know a ton about them but they didn’t get really interested in your ideas?

Run from this person.

They have the circular thinking.

Everything revolves around them.

Ain’t ever going to be no different, no matter how long they live.

 

4.

Are they focused on you or do they eyes wander?

Do they get calls on their mobile phones and think you will be fascinated listening to them carrying on a conversation?

Do they seem disengaged from the moment, always waiting for the next to come along?

Restless folks who cannot concentrate on anything outside themselves will eventually get distracted by new toys.

 

5.

Be especially cautious around the person who brings up past love affairs.

This a bad sign.

Women who moan about how they was treated by other guys is asking for a repeat experience.

Men who have never been understood never will be.

Intimate stories is best kept for those in whom you have complete confidence and no ulterior motive.

Or for a posthumous autobiography.

 

6.

I read recently the suggestion that a woman should suck provocatively on fruit and/or vegetables on a date to let the gent know she is up for it.

That is ridiculous.

First off, a body knows when they in the presence of another they’d enjoy to clash with.

No need for tricks.

And secondly, this ain’t being yourself.

(Unless you the sort who fondle comestibles in the privacy of your own home, which will be the subject of a future blog.)

This is advertising.

It would give me a clue that either the party hadn’t had it in a long while and was over ripe,

or that they is sex mad and can’t look at nothing without thinking about where to put it.

If you meet someone who gives it all up in the first two seconds, what is there to stick around for?

True sensuality is mysterious.

It is also natural and unstudied.

Don’t need to be played at  -  if it’s the real thing.

 

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Now a word from a woman who made all the mistakes above and has the sad songs to prove it.

The term – Casual Sex – is a oxymoron, a contradiction, a mixed metaphor.

There is nothing casual about sex.

Not only are you exchanging fluids and energies as closely as bodies can,  but by doing so you are taking in all that person has inside - darkness along with the light.

It changes everything.

No relationship is ever the same after sex.

Period.

Enough moralizing.

For now.

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Share, care and be aware.

Love,

LuRain

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